Lessons in Young Womanhood- Who Are You?

I find people absolutely fascinating; myself included. What makes them tick, what makes them do the things they do, how do they interact with people and what causes relationships between different people to flourish or to fail? There are never any fully concrete answers, only more questions because people are complex! And that is what I dearly love.

Learning about who I am and what makes ME tick, and why I think the way I do, has been very life changing for me- especially in the last year or two. I believe it’s important for all of us.

Today I want to talk a bit about the importance of learning who we are; who God created us to be, and what He created us to do. You may not be as enthusiastic about this process as I am, but it is important for all of us to do some work to figure this out for a few reasons:


  1. You, on your own, are a complete person; a full image bearer of God. You do not need to find your “other half”. If we are constantly looking for another person or relationship to complete us, it will never work. We will be demanding that other person to fill a role that they were never meant to fill, which causes much relational dysfunction. Not only this, but it robs us of the beauty of knowing God in this intimate way and allowing Him to show us our completeness in Him.
  2. When we know who we are and what we were meant to do, we tend to treat others with more respect and more freedom. I have observed that often, when a person does not know who she or he is, or is uncomfortable with who they are, they either are quieter than they ought to be (me), or they are antagonistic towards others; always aggressive and fighting people or ideas they don’t agree with or understand. Neither option is very respectful of others, and neither encourage freedom in other people.
  3. To go through life without a sense of purpose is a joy-sucking experience. We all want to find the thing that makes us come alive! And if we don’t know who we are, or what we are good at, how will we ever know what makes us come alive?

Take some time to invest into uncovering who you are, and what you were meant to be. For your own sake as well as others around you. And even more importantly, so that the glory of God can be displayed in your life. So, where to start? Here are a few things I have found to be immensely helpful in doing this work.


  1. Meyers/Brigg test. There are many tests you can easily take online for free. One of my favorites can be found at 16personalities.com. They have an extensive description of your results and how your personality responds in various environments such as; parenting, work, and relationships.
  2. Courage and Calling by Gordon T. Smith was a life-changing read for me. He talks biblically about 4 different types of callings, what they look like, and what it takes to have the courage to step out in faith towards those things.
  3. A Million Little Ways by Emily P. Freeman. Another life-changer for me. I adore this author, I always feel like she’s speaking directly to my heart. Her book is about how God is an artist and a creator and as image bearers of God, we all have art to display to the world. Her writing is arty and flowery and beautifully scripted.
  4. The Person Called You by Bill Hendricks. This book is very similar to A Million Little Ways, but it is written in a more logical, concrete sort of way. If you connect to that writing style better, you should read this one instead of the other.
  5. Try, try, try. I encourage you to go out and try and experience as much as you can, while you can. Go out for sports, take hard classes, join leadership in your school, volunteer, get a job, travel if possible- even if it’s just a road trip. Not only will this build independence, but it will build confidence and maturity. It will give you opportunities to fail at things while the consequences are much smaller, and failing is NOT a bad thing! Failing at something means that you found something that didn’t work, which in the end, really just makes you more successful.

This is, of course, just the tip of the iceberg, but hopefully enough to get you started. What resources have been helpful to you?

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